There are loads of resources about creating great characters. But when it comes to creating great relationships–the perfect tag team, the favorite couple, the best friends–the writing world is lacking. Whether your characters are romantic partners, coworkers, best friends, siblings or what have you, audiences eat up a wonderfully crafted duo, trio, or group.
People love Sherlock and Watson’s relationship so much, that there is an entire fan community that roots for them to actually be together. Agents Mulder and Scully from X-Files worked so well together that they belonged together. I was once watching Harry Potter with someone who turned to me and said, “You know, I love how Harry, Ron, and Hermione all fit together.”
Some kinds of relationships would still be entertaining to watch if the whole story revolved around the characters going to the grocery store–their relationship is that amusing. (In fact, one of my favorite X-Files episodes is where Mulder and Scully have to go undercover as a married couple living a normal life together. It’s hilarious.)
This post is going to talk about some of the key factors in creating this effect. How do you create a tag team that we can’t get enough of? Well, here are some things to consider.
Give them a History
In Fullmetal Alchemist Brotherhood, the two main characters, who are brothers, make up the duo. And they have a history. In one scene Ed rants about how Alphonse is always picking up stray cats and hiding them in his armor. I love it. Ed goes on and on and it’s funny. In The Office, we love that Jim and Dwight have a history of pranks that stretch back before the first episode begins.
Dr. John Watson: Don’t do that.
Sherlock Holmes: Do what?
Dr. John Watson: The look.
Sherlock Holmes: Look?
Dr. John Watson: You’re doing the look again.
Sherlock Holmes: Now, I can’t see it, can I?
[John indicates the mirror, Sherlock looks]
Sherlock Holmes: It’s my face.
Dr. John Watson: Yes, and it’s doing a thing. You’re doing a we-both-know-what’s-really-going-on-here face.
Sherlock Holmes: Well, we do.
Dr. John Watson: No, I don’t, which is why I find the face so annoying.
The reference to Sherlock’s “look” indicates a history of it. This example happens to be an off-page (or, I guess, off-screen) referral. The audience hasn’t seen this topic discussed on screen, but it’s clear that Sherlock and Watson have talked about it. Off-page referrals are a great way to build a relationship in a small amount of time, which is perfect for the t.v. series Sherlock, because episodes can jump across months and years.
In The X-Files Mulder has a habit of sharpening pencils and throwing them up at the ceiling so that they get stuck. Scully notices this, and every time she does, we get this kind of warm fuzzy feeling like “oh, things never change” (or at least I do). And then, when their relationship is solid and strong, and Mulder gets abducted, Scully looks up at the ceiling and sees all the pencils stuck in it, and we get a twinge because the “history” they had has concluded. Things did change, and we wish they didn’t, and the pencils stuck in the ceiling remind us of how painful it is.This history happens on screen. I mean, we know that Mulder is doing this even off screen, but the audience is part of the history because we see it develop. The advantage of doing this, of having us be a part of the history several times, is that when that particular history seems to conclude, or things change, it hits the audience harder in the gut. We can only get that kind of gut-wrenching emotional response at that level if we’ve been participants in it.
They Know Each Other Too Well
This tactic follows up nicely with the history one. We love it when characters know each other too well. The character may know the other person better than that person knows himself. It’s like with Harry, Ron, and Hermione. As the series progresses, whenever Hermione is about to have a Hermione moment, where she goes off to inform Harry and Ron about something she read about, Harry and Ron exchange smiles. They know Hermione so well that they can sense where she is going, and they share in it. They actually both come to find her scholarly moments endearing. In the movies, we hear them finish her sentences.
Hermione: I had some questions, so I decided to go to–
Harry and Ron: –the library.
In Sherlock, Sherlock comes to know John better than John knows himself. It’s Sherlock that has to tell John that he’s attracted to psychotic people. John doesn’t see it in himself. In some ways, John also comes to know Sherlock better than Sherlock knows himself. Or, he picks up on things about Sherlock, even when Sherlock tries to hide it from him.
At first The Office might not seem to fit into this category or this post. There are relationships, sure, but they aren’t buddy-buddies. But, honestly, that show is all about relationships. I mean, look at the story concept. It’s a show about an office of a paper company. Not much of a driving plot there. It’s the relationships that the story is about. And if they got 10 years out of that show, then there is definitely some things about character relationships we can learn from it.
So for this point, in The Office, Jim knows Dwight so well, that he knows exactly what to do to get a specific reaction out of Dwight. Jim knows exactly how to prank him. Likewise, Pam knows Michael so well, she can foresee the mess he is going to get himself into before it happens. Then, both Jim and Pam, together, work to deal with Dwight and Michael–either by pranking them or, when it gets down to it, lending them a hand.
When it gets down to it, because John and Sherlock know each other so well, and because Pam and Jim know Dwight and Michael so well, they are there for them, help them, and protect them when it counts. You cut out the banter and history, and they’ve got each others’ backs when things are serious. John even tries to protect Sherlock from a broken heart. Sherlock likewise tries to protect John by faking a suicide.
They Share their Vulnerability
I’m a big believer in characters having vulnerable moments. And the vulnerable moments between these character may feel almost sacred. In the X-Files, Scully really wants to be a mother, but because of a history of alien experimentation, she’s infertile. Mulder and Scully deal with her personal issue, as coworkers and friends. At this point they are not romantically together, but they’ve grown close through their experiences. There’s a moment in the series, where Scully has the opportunity to possibly get pregnant through in vitro. She comes to Mulder and asks him to be the donor. She’s completely vulnerable in that moment.
Mulder jokes a little bit, not out of cruelty, but I think to lighten the seriousness of the moment, perhaps so that Scully feels more comfortable, but in the end, he agrees. The pregnancy doesn’t take, and Scully is heartbroken over it, but Mulder is there for her. He shares her vulnerability, a part of her that perhaps no one else even knows about.
That’s what I love about great relationships. There is this space that the characters share that is sacred. As the series goes on, and Scully struggles more with her desire to be a mother, Mulder is always there. He’s got her back. And when he has struggles, she’s got his.
But it doesn’t have to be as serious or as personal as infertility. Here and there in The Office, we see vulnerable moments between Jim, Pam, and Dwight. When Pam is having a difficult time, Dwight, indirectly, makes a point to lighten her load, though he’ll never admit to it, and Pam herself will never know about it.
You can play with that too. You can have open vulnerable moments, where the characters are completely vulnerable in front of each other, like Scully and Mulder. Or you can have closed vulnerable moments, where one character sees/spies/catches the vulnerability of the other, and does something to help her, maybe when she’s not looking, like Dwight and Pam.
In these vulnerable moments, it’s okay if the character “opens up” indirectly. Most people do. It’s hard to be direct about sensitive things. But, to kick it up a notch, these characters know each other so well, that when one is being indirect, the other knows exactly what they’re really saying.
They Grow Together
As Jim, Pam, and Dwight grow and change, they also, end up growing closer together. Pam and Jim end up married with kids, but perhaps more significant than that is how close Dwight feels to them by the end of the series. They used to be enemies, particularly Jim and Dwight, and there is this beautiful relationship arc. In the first episode, Jim is always pranking Dwight to get under his skin. In the last episode, Dwight has asked Jim to be his best man at his wedding. Jim says he’s going to pull out the best pranks on Dwight–and he does, but instead of pranks that get under Dwight’s skin, they’re pranks that all lead to Dwight being happier for his wedding. Again, Jim knows Dwight so well, that he knows exactly what to do to get a specific reaction, but in the last episode, he uses that knowledge to better Dwight’s life.
Likewise, I love how in the Harry Potter movies, when Harry explains he’s a horcrux and has to die in order to defeat Voldemort, Hermione, who had had a very rocky start with Harry and Ron in book one, says the line, on the verge of tears, “I’ll go with you.”
If your character’s relationships are going to grow together, we need to see something to drive it home, a validation. We need to see Jim using his pranking mastermind to make Dwight’s wedding the best ever. We need to see Hermione willing to go with Harry to his death.
I also really like Harry and Dumbledore’s relationship. In the sixth movie, Dumbledore talks about how Harry needs to shave, and remembers how Harry used to be the boy who lived in a cupboard. Through a few lines, we get a sense of how Dumbledore has seen Harry grow, and, of how they’ve grown closer together.
And of course, Sherlock and John grow closer together. We get a nice relationship arc, when, in one episode, John is upset with Sherlock’s character, his heartlessness:
Dr. John Watson: There are lives at stake… Sherlock. Actual human li… Jus-just so I know, you care about them at all?
Sherlock Holmes: Will caring about them help save them?
Dr. John Watson: Nope.
Sherlock Holmes: Then I’ll continue to not make that mistake.
Dr. John Watson: And you find that easy, do you?
Sherlock Holmes: Yes. Very. Is that news to you?
Dr. John Watson: No. No.
Sherlock Holmes: I’ve disappointed you.
Dr. John Watson: It’s good… it’s good deduction. Yeah.
Sherlock Holmes: Don’t make people into heroes John. Heroes don’t exist, and if they did I wouldn’t be one of them.
Then it comes full circle in a later episode:
Dr. John Watson: You… you told me once… that you weren’t a hero. Umm… There were times I didn’t even think you were human, but let me tell you this. You were the best man, the most human… human being that I’ve ever known and no one will ever convince me that you told me a lie, so… there. I was so alone… and I owe you so much. But please, there’s just one more thing, one more miracle, Sherlock, for me, don’t be… dead. Would you do that just for me? Just stop it. Stop this…
Often in great relationships, the characters’ views of one another change.
Sherlock goes from having no friends, to feeling like John is his best friend. I love, though, how even after this, Sherlock can’t conceive that he could be John’s best friend.
Make Them Foils Somewhere
These characters can also grow because of each other. Because of John, Sherlock learns to be more caring of others. The characters in these relationships need to be opposites in some points. Mulder believes in aliens and the supernatural. Scully is a skeptic.
In one of my favorite tag teams from my childhood, Trunks and Goten in Dragon Ball Z, Trunks is a scheming troublemaker, and Goten is a kindhearted innocent. They go great together (and are very entertaining together) because Trunks is always bringing Goten into trouble with him, but Goten is so naive, that he doesn’t have a clue that Trunks has anything but good intentions. They’re best friends. They love playing together and have a great relationship. But because they are opposites in these aspects, they are able to bounce off each other for an entertaining effect. It’s like what I talked about in my humor post.
Sometimes we think that best friends are completely alike–don’t make the mistake of making them copies of each other. That’s not how you create these kinds of relationships. When the characters foil each other in some way, we have more depth, more breadth to play with in their relationship. And if they are the same, they won’t be able to bounce off each other for our amusement. An important point to remember is that they don’t bounce off each other cruelly. They aren’t cruel or mean-spirited toward one another. They’re pals with differences. Trunks isn’t cruel to Goten, he just makes up ridiculous lies that Goten believes so that they can go on humorous adventures together.
The characters’ oppositions (especially paired with a sense of history) can lead to them being nit-picky about each other. They might be opposites in little things. These are banters. The characters might be genuinely annoyed, but again, they aren’t cold-hearted and cruel.
The things they are nit-picky about should usually relate to characterization. You might not want to use cliches, like the fact that say, Sherlock is horrible at squeezing toothpaste from the tube. Instead, it could be the fact that he keeps dead bodies in the fridge that irks John, for example. Cliches can fall flat. But, not always. Sometimes they play off relatability, or it’s funny because it’s a cliche. Like when Mulder and Scully have to go undercover as a married couple, Mulder says, “Woman, make me a sandwich.” It’s a cliche, but it’s funny because it’s a cliche, and Mulder is saying it.
John complaining of Sherlock’s “look” that I mentioned earlier plays into the nit-picky stuff, as well as history (and as well as John knowing Sherlock too well).
The characters may have the same core beliefs, but different views or approaches to them. It might just be the little things they get annoyed over.
Take Advantage of the Five Languages of Love
You can use these languages of love between your characters to make their relationship feel more meaningful. It can also keep you from relying on the same language too much. Maybe you tend to have your character verbally express (if only indirectly) that they care about each other. This list lets you mix it up and try some other methods.
Sure, Gary Chapman is a marriage counselor, but this works for any kind of relationship. If the two people in your relationship are two tough guys, you can still use these, just use them the right way. They don’t have to say, “I love you.” They can say, “Man, you’re freaking boss.” The gift giving doesn’t have to be sentimental. It can be simply one guy getting the other guy his favorite candy bar out of the vending machine at work. Touch can be a high-five or a knuckle bump. Quality time can be going out for drinks, working out together, or watching sports.
Once the relationship is established, or, we as an audience can tell these characters are going to have a valuable relationship, we usually look back fondly on their first meeting. Harry meeting Ron and Hermione–fans reminiscence about it. If your characters’ relationship is already established when the story starts, you might want to consider having one of them look back and remember how they met and what they first thought about each other.
Sometimes the characters start off hating one another, like Ron hating Hermione. Other times they hit it off immediately, like Michael and Holly in The Office. Their first impressions of one another might be different than their later perceptions. Or their first impressions may simply go deeper. Sherlock, is even crazier, more arrogant, and more intelligent than John first realized. Whatever the case, their perceptions of each other change in some way as their relationship grows.
The first meeting between the characters doesn’t have to be significant. You could have one character hailing down a taxi for the other. But whatever it is, it often grows to feel significant because of the relationship that develops thereafter. That relationship wouldn’t have existed without that first meeting.With that said, I like it when writers go beyond “stock” meetings. (So many meet cutes are renditions of the female looking stupid in front of the male.) See if you can come up with an interesting setting. Think about what these specific characters’ first meeting would be like. When Sherlock and John meet, Sherlock uses his classic reasoning of deduction to figure John out. That’s a meeting only Sherlock can have. It’s not a stock meeting.
Maybe you can use the meeting to illustrate your characters’ foils. Or, that they share the same passions. You can make it serious. Perhaps they become friends because they are stuck together in a life-and-death situation. Maybe they are forced together. Katniss and Gale become friends because they were both hunting to feed their families. Maybe your characters share a mutual friend–that they both hate. Or, a mutual friend who swears that these two people would be perfect for each other. Whatever the case, see what you can come up with to make this meeting original. Take time to brainstorm it.