Guest post by Heather Horrocks.
USA Today bestselling author Heather Horrocks writes flirty romance with a touch of magic (Moonchuckle Bay, Chick Flick Clique, and Christmas Street), death with a laugh (Who-Dun-Him Inn and Bad Mothers Club), and inspirational (Women Who Knew).
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During a more leisurely time years ago, my mother used to host Come-as-You-Are parties. In case you’ve never experienced one, these were surprise parties, where the guests didn’t know they were invited until a conspirator showed up at their door at 6:30 in the morning to pick them up exactly as they were. As children, it was fun to be part of an adult party where my mother and her friends had messy hair and shabby bathrobes instead of being perfumed and elegantly dressed and coiffured.
Those parties were fun — but I’ve found a much more powerful version of this party when you reverse it — the guests not only know they’re coming, but they prepare for it so they can come as they “are” — not now, but five years in the future — and prove it, too!
The Come-as-You-Are-In-Five-Years Dream Party is a powerful affirmation of each person’s goals. A visualization that speaks to your innermost self. (I host these parties periodically; if you want to know about my next one, sign up on the Dream Parties page of my website at www.BooksByHeatherHorrocks.com.)
Here’s my experience with the concept. My sister September read about it in Jack Canfield’s book The Success Principles: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be, and we (September, our sister Skye, and I) decided to try it. At first we planned it during dinner on the last evening of our sisters’ weekend, but then decided we’d play “as if” for the entire weekend. It was amazing! By the time we got to that final dinner, we’d convinced our subconscious minds that we’d really achieved these goals — so much so that, when I returned to my real life and sat down at the computer two days later to begin transcribing radiology reports, my soul screamed out in protest: “Nooooo! I don’t have to do this any more! I’m a bestselling author!”
You don’t need an entire weekend, though. As Jack Canfield said, “When you spend an evening living out the lifestyle you want and deserve, you lay down powerful blueprints in your subconscious mind, that will later support you in perceiving opportunities, creating powerful solutions, attracting the right people, and taking the necessary actions to achieve your dreams and goals.”
It works. I challenge you to give it a try.
Do you know what you want? What would you like to be and accomplish in five years? What are your talents? Interests? Passions? Skills? What resonates with you? Make a specific goal and set a date for five years from today.
“All our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them.” Walt Disney
“If your dreams don’t scare you, they are not big enough.” (Unknown)
“A dream is just a dream. A goal is a dream with a plan and a deadline.” Harvey MacKay
“I believe that this nation should commit itself to achieving the goal, before this decade is out, of landing a man on the moon and returning him safely to earth…. not because [those goals] are easy, but because they are hard, because that goal will serve to organize and measure the best of our energies and skills.” Pres. John F. Kennedy
“I have a dream.” Martin Luther King Jr. (Aug 28, 1963)
INVITE OTHER DREAMERS
Only invite people who are willing to dream big and who are open to do something this amazing. Not everyone is. If you invite someone who isn’t, party without them. A Dream Party requires dreamers.
WHERE WILL YOU “PROVE” YOUR DREAMS?
Plan on a dinner evening and decide where you want to meet for a couple of hours — in a quiet restaurant that is as nice as you can afford, or at someone’s house where everyone brings pot luck, or have your party catered. Or have an “awards”-type dinner where everyone takes turns standing and talking about what they’ve achieved in the last five years (since today). A restaurant is nice because then no one has to be stressed about cleaning their house or cooking. A home is nice because you can stay for a few hours if everyone is enjoying their success. If you can, have another friend play the part of a reporter, to take pictures and interview the guests on their accomplishments. Create an atmosphere of excitement, of being around all of these successful people.
DRESS FOR SUCCESS
Dress for the lifestyle you want to achieve.
PROVE YOUR SUCCESS!
Whatever you want to be, create something that will prove you have already achieved it. Here are some ideas for possible “proofs.” This is a vital part of the process. You’re not only proving to others at the party — but to yourself — that you’ve already achieved your dream.
Marriage? Go to Wal-Mart and buy a $10 engagement/wedding ring. (It worked for my sister September; within five years, she was married.)
Degree? Create a college graduation certificate from the college of your choice with your name on it and the date of your graduation.
Business? Create a business card with your name as CEO, President, or owner of your company.
Sales? Bring a photo album of you in Hawaii for top sales.
First Book? Make the front and back cover and wrap it around another book.
Dream House? Show us pictures and a floor plan.
Artist? Create a notice of your exhibit at a gallery.
Seminars? Hand out your brochures.
Author? Add your book to the USA Today or New York Times bestseller list.
Physical? Bring your Olympic medal or a photo of you running a marathon.
Ten-Million-Dollar Check? Write yourself one like Jim Carrey did in 1990.
REVEL IN YOUR SUCCESS!
Go to the party and play the biggest game of “as if” ever. You’re not only visualizing you as your future successful self, you’re experiencing it, which makes a huge different. The YOU attending is the future you, who has already achieved your goals and dreams. Bring your proof(s). Speak as though you’ve already achieved your dream—and as if everyone else there has already achieved theirs! Experience the power of already being there.
GO HOME — AND MAKE IT SO, NUMBER ONE!
After your own version of soul-screaming, take whatever classes you need to in order to learn the skills you need to reach your goal. Do it. And be ready to change, to get past your fears and baggage. Ask yourself, “What must I change about myself in order to be willing to receive this by this date?” (Edwene Gaines)
This party will unleash the power of your thoughts and subconscious to move you toward your dreams. I triple dog dare you to do it. Choose a goal, create a proof, come to the party. You will forever be glad you did.
Jennifer J. Bennett was born in Southern California as the youngest of six children. Her imagination began to develop as a child creating worlds in her backyard. Books have always played a big role in her life; favorites growing up were “The Country Bunny” by Dubose Heyward, “The Light in the Attic”by Shel Silverstein, and “Island of the Blue Dolphins” by Scott O’ Dell among many, many others. She also enjoys music, theater, travel, and cooking.
Jennifer moved from Southern California in 1989 and finished high school in Southern Utah where she met her husband Matthew Bennett who currently works in educational administration. They reside in St. George, Utah with four amazing kids: Haylee, Chase, Conner, and Libby. After her father was diagnosed with cancer, she began writing her first novel, “The Path”. Her father encouraged her to move forward with her writing and she has continued since. He passed away in 2009.
Jen, as her friends call her; can be found buzzing around California from time to time in search of magical elements from the past. She tries to balance fun, being a mom, and trying to be a grownup (which she really isn’t sure she ever wants to be).
Visit Jen’s blog at: http://www.jjbennett.com/